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Just a few reminders.....Its all about the music!! People Be nice! I wont tolerate anyone disrespecting me or others in the room. I am here to meet new people, to hang out and have fun. If you are all about a CAM you might as well delete me now. I am on cam a lot but not always and dont even bother asking me to get nekkid. Infact, dont even start trying to joke around sexually. If you dont know me yet..... try some regular conversation to start off. IMAGINE that? What a concept. OH..... Honesty and Trust... something some people have no clue about. This is the internet but we are all still real people so be REAL or dont bother wasting my time. IM not interested in any other BS. I am straight up... sometimes misunderstood but that is part of life. We are all different in many ways and sometimes we communicate so differently we just take each other wrong. Especially when we are typing things out to talk. I am just saying I am ME..... You wont get anything more or less than what you would see and experience in person. I would hope my friends on here would do the same... Which is why I am so picky about who I add. If you dont have a pic or a profile I most likely wont add you so why bother..... I might make an exception if you have something intelligent to say and/or just made your account. Try reading the memo below.... now THAT is truth about the net. Peace! ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() This was written by a very intelligent man in my opinion. I admire him greatly and He speaks words of wisdom. Read it carefully. It holds much truth, thanks Ves for sharing. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Recent events have brought me to repost part 5 of my passion series. V. Is it possible to really get to know someone on Stickam? Translation: Are people on Stickam "REAL? The internet has created a new medium for the genesis of relationships. Where once it was "penpals" who formed bonds without physical interaction, today it is cyberspace "friends." People "meet," "chat," and fall in and out of "love," all with ten fingers on a keyboard. Someone once told me that people on Stickam aren't real, and therefore by analogy, neither are the relationships formed. There was no reason to worry about how your words effect people because they are “not real.” Unfortunately for you who frequent this page, that got me to thinking... What does it do to human interaction if you remove the element of physical contact from the equation? Often, when we meet someone in person, we instantly categorize them based on their appearance (or if you're a biologist, based on the way their pheromones interact with our chemistry and nervous system). Friend, enemy, combatant, challenge, potential lover… Recent studies indicate that the pheromones released by a person can strongly effect the emotional response of the recipient. So, if physical chemistry is so important, what does it do to initial interaction if they are simply eliminated? I believe the answer to this question depends not on the medium involved (in this case, Stickam), but on the sincerity, integrity, and intent of the participants. Stickam in large part strips away the initial judgment formed based on someone's appearance (you can sometimes see their face, but even that is far different from seeing their posture, build, shape, and mannerisms - the things that generate most animal physical attraction). This leaves you with a unique opportunity to form an opinion, not on what you feel or smell, but on what you learn about the person through their words. It also allows us to get to know people that we might never know in real life. People who don’t fit a certain mold, or who we think we would never be brave enough to approach if we saw them in person. For example, one of my best Stickam friends is a brick, covered with tattoos. I seriously doubt we would have ever said word-one to each other in person, yet through Stickam, we’ve realized that we’re more similar than different. I’ve also met people of different religions that I would simply not have ever come to know on the street. Hell, there are no people of those religions in my COUNTY, much less in my circle of friends. The down side of this is that it creates a platform from which a person who is willing to lie, or at least pretend to be something they’re not, can impact a lot of people. Men who would never have the stones to be belligerent to another man’s face are suddenly Rambo in the chatroom. Women who seek affirmation say anything to be the center of attention. Children pretend to be adults. It becomes an electronic costume party, where people feel that there are no consequences to their actions, because of the power of anonymity. The unscrupulous can treat people like play-things, callously indifferent as to the wave of depression in their wake. This is particularly dangerous in Stickam, which is populated in large part by people who are lonely in their daily lives - lonely in a crowd. An man who will say anything is capable of manipulating people for his amusement. He leads them on, and discards them however he wishes when it's convenient. To the sincere person, this is the primary risk of being open on Stickam. The up side is that a person who is sincere – who puts on no masks, but merely puts themselves out there – can form real and strong bonds. Bonds that go deeper than would form in person. (This can also be a bad thing, as many of us have learned). Through the written word, we are able to express our emotions thoughtfully, rather than as they appear on our face, or blurt out of our mouths. The catch is, the online experience must be more than “show me your tits” or “your muscles make me hot!” People must speak from the heart, and expect the same from the other person. And, they must be aware of the effect that their words have on the other person as well. (Refer back to my prior post about the power of words). You can hurt someone with a careless word on Stickam as quickly as you can face to face. People on Stickam are real - each as real as the other. There are those who are willing to use others as play-things, and there are those who wish to be used. (They are also real, but they are hiding, and they can be dangerous as well.) You can affect other people, and they can affect you. Finding the ones who are sincere – who want to be real – is the goal, and the reward. With those people, relationships, however fleeting, are as real as they feel. And whether we admit it to ourselves or not, THAT is why most of us are here. imvesuvio ![]() |